Recently I’ve been feeling quite uncomfortable in my own skin. I’ve been very jumpy, grumpy and cranky. Over the last few days, things seemed to spiral out of control, I felt like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde!! I was being pulled in many directions, confused, tired and unfocussed.
Today, I finally lost it completely. The kids drove me nuts and when they threw tantrums, I’m embarrassed to say I threw a big one myself. I yelled and ranted until my throat was raw and I even stormed out of the room!! Let me tell you, that is one way to get your kids attention…..they were both standing there mouths wide open, staring. In the middle of all this drama, I started giggling. That confused them even more which only sent me into hysterics, then I was almost in tears again a few seconds later! (see I told you Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde!). Wish I could blame it on PMS!
The whole experience left me drained, unnerved and very tired. I was fed up of feeling this way so I asked my spiritual cousin for advice and did some research on the internet so here’s what I finally did based on what I got from both sources:
1- Dance, dance, dance, dance (I grabbed my girls and we danced our butts off)
2- Laugh and smile (my girls were wiggling and laughing and it was contagious – do this step even if you don’t feel like it)
3- Clear yourself and home from all negative energy (I opened all the windows and let fresh air come in and imagined all bad energy leaving but feel free to research more detailed methods online)
4- Meditate and clean your chakras (I have never been good at this so I lit a candle and stared at it and imagined myself peaceful and quiet. Worked better for me)
5- Take a deep breath every time you feel these emotions and don’t let them drag you down!
6- My all time favorite though is, go hug a tree! Reconnect with nature and breathe in some serenity. I enjoyed doing that. It was peaceful; I even sat under the tree for a few minutes and just let myself be. (I wonder what my neighbors would have thought had they come out at that moment.)
There isn’t a miracle cure but I do feel calmer than I had in the past few days. I think I will try steps 1, 2 and 6 again tomorrow; they did make me smile
Good look and I hope this helps you find some sanity and peace! xo
Most of us are guilty of this. We take care of everyone else and neglect to take care of ourselves. We give our family and friends all we have and then wonder why we are so tired and drained. We are running on empty. We don’t realize how important it is for us to refill our energy levels. We need to make time for ourselves and do things that make us happy.
Get a massage, some of you may even be covered for these under your insurance plans but don’t even know it! I didn’t I found out about it a little while ago (I still don’t take advantage of it either!!). Don’t say no time (I do it too) but we HAVE to MAKE the time. We just don’t seem to think we are worth the effort to organize the babysitting details to go and pamper ourselves.
Go shopping, by yourself. One of my favorite things to do is get the kids ready for bed and leave them with my husband to go shopping. I go and run a couple of errands. This way I hit 3 birds with one stone. I get my errands done in peace, get alone time to be with myself; don’t feel guilty for being selfish, I am after all running errands. I do feel refreshed (tired but refreshed) and good about getting things done.
Now don’t get me wrong, once in a while you should absolutely be decadent. Go out and do something just for you and just for the fun of it. Go to a movie, dinner with a friend, appointment with hairdresser, massage, manicure, pedicure, whatever it as long as it makes YOU happy.
As moms we forget that we need to fill up our tank if we are expected to use it to care for others. Running on fumes is not good for us and definitely not for the family so since we take such pride in being good moms. Also not a great example to teach the kids, they learn from what they see. So make sure to be a good mom and take care of yourself.
I promise to practice what I preach and work on scheduling in that massage within the next month!
Let me start by saying: Aaaaaaarrrrrgh!!!! Ok, that feels better.
Who hasn’t heard of post partum blues? The uncontrollable weeping, the mood swings, depression and feelings of detachment? We know that is to be expected when the baby is born. In most cases, you feel hormonal, down, weepy, etc… and it passes. Of course in some severe cases, medication is needed.
In my case however, it is not so obvious. My baby was born four months ago; I went through some mood swings at the beginning. That was the easy part. What I feel now is so subtle but feels devastating at times.
I am a strong person and have been through a lot and have coped with high levels of stress before, this is different. It is very hard to put into words. I am tired and I don’t mean from lack of sleep. I feel it deep in my soul, I am just sooo tired. It’s not physical just an overall feeling of helplessness with periods of frustration. Feeling like I can’t go on. It doesn’t feel like regular hormonal swings so even I don’t realize it’s there until it peaks every few days.
Because I don’t have mascara running down my face all the time and I don’t walk around with a box of Kleenex, I don’t feel justified in blaming the hormones. But I am sure something is going on. Since I can’t put my finger on it, I can’t begin to fix it so I plow right through it. These cycles are draining me and taking away much needed energy to care for my family.
I am hoping that by acknowledging it and working through it day by day, it will pass in time. Eventually all will go back to normal hopefully with minimum residual effects.
Shattered is the idea that the hardships of pregnancy are over when the chubby baby is cooing contently in your arms.